My ex-husband’s girlfriend wants to wear my wedding dress to marry him’
A woman has revealed how she was left feeling baffled when her ex-husband’s new partner asked if she could wear her wedding dress to their wedding
It’s no secret that many marriages end in divorce, but in some cases, the end of a marriage doesn’t mean the end of a friendship. In fact, some couples manage to part ways romantically and stay good friends, while also becoming friends with each other’s partners.
One woman has found herself in that exact situation, after divorcing her husband and the father of her five-year-old son three years ago.
The woman and her ex K have remained close friends and “still love each other as friends.” For the last 10 months however, K has been in a relationship with G, and the woman has since become great friends with G too.
“Everything seemed to be going great until the other day. G and K have started talking about marriage. I know K is really hesitant, but G really wants to be married and have children on her own,” she wrote on Reddit’s AITA forum.
“I guess G saw some old pictures of me in my wedding dress and has been raving about how pretty my dress is. The other day we had coffee together and G brought up getting married soon. I told her how I happy I was for her.
“Things changed though when she asked if she could wear MY wedding dress. I was really shocked she even asked. I immediately told her that I was flattered, but no. She immediately got extremely pouty and started to ask why. I explained that I just wasn’t comfortable with her wearing my dress to marry my ex-husband.”
Her ex’s partner then got really upset and started “causing a scene,” prompting the woman to get up and leave. About an hour later, she received a call from her ex-husband asking her what happened. When he found out, he also agreed it was a bit strange and took the woman’s side, but that wasn’t the end of it.
“G has been having her friends and family call me and my work calling me an a**hole for not ‘sharing’ and claiming that I’m not over K, so am just doing this to ruin her wedding. While it’s true that I’m not over K, part of me just doesn’t feel comfortable having her wear my dress.”
The woman said the whole argument had caused a strain on her relationship with her ex and their co-parenting, leaving her feeling like she may as well just give in and let G wear the dress.
“You’re not the a**hole, but for your mental health, I think you should be establishing some boundaries too with your ex. You admitted that your not over him, he’s in a committed relationship. She might be getting a vibe from you that you’re not over him,” one Reddit user commented.
“However, that gives her zero rights to ask for your wedding dress, and her getting others to contact you is crazy. What she did was creepy and out of line. But you might give some thought to just keeping things about your co parenting for awhile until you resolve your feelings for him.”
Another added: “I’m in a really similar situation to you, I have an ex wife and a five-year-old. I really get on with her and her new partner too. If my partner even began to ask something like this I would shut it down immediately, because it would be upsetting to my ex and really disrespectful of our previous relationship.
“I love her completely and she makes me happy in a way my relationship with the ex never would, but that doesn’t mean she gets to disrespect my wedding and marriage to the mother of my first child, hell no. Also it’s just WEIRD.”