My husband hates the ‘abusive’ name I chose for our son – but it’s traditional’

My husband hates the ‘abusive’ name I chose for our son – but it’s traditional’

Sharing her story anonymously, a woman said that she and her husband had decided to give their son a traditional name but he had changed his mind as he feared the boy would be bullied

A woman is locked in a bitter dispute with her husband after he changed his mind on the name for their unborn son – as he feared the boy would be bulled when he grew up.

Sharing her story anonymously, the woman said that they had agreed to give their son a traditional name and spent months coming up with the perfect moniker.

She even told her family and they were delighted, but then her husband backed out – saying he wanted to give their son a more ‘normal’ name.

Now the family are divided and the woman can’t see why her husband has changed his mind, adding that she thinks they should stick to calling their son Gaylord as they had planned.

Taking to Reddit in May 2020, she said: “In my family, our genealogy is extremely important. The firstborn son since the 1800s has been given this name.

“I get it, trust me, I know most people hate it.

“That is why I’ve been able to discuss with my parents and grandparents that he will go by Gail in daily life so that he doesn’t have to deal with bullies.

“They really didn’t like the idea, but I wore them down and they have agreed and don’t seem too offended by this.

“They see the backlash over the name today as a fad that will eventually disappear, and I agree seeing how accepting each generation tends to become.

“When society stops being so immature about it, he can start using the full name.”

The woman said that her husband initially agreed to name their son Gaylord, but then he said he thought his wife was joking.

She continued: “I now have his whole family hounding me and overreacting, telling me it would be abusive even when we’d just be calling him Gail.

“My mother told me my mother-in-law has called her to scream at her over the phone.

“My in-laws are telling me that even Gail isn’t an acceptable boy’s name and that I need to ‘get with the times’ and choose something more appropriate.

“They gave me a list of approved names like I’m a child, which is incredibly offensive to me.

“Not to mention they were trendy names that would never stand the test of time.”

The post proved popular with other Reddit users and soon the mum-to-be was inundated with comments from users who agreed with her husband.

One said: “I work with elementary-age children and this is a terrible idea. I’m sorry, but no. Definitely do not name your child Gaylord in any form or fashion.”

While another said: “I feel like this has to be a troll, right? Like… no one would actually sit down and think that Gaylord would be a good name for their kid in 2020, right?”

And a third wrote: “Some traditions reach the point where they are no longer suitable for modern times. This is 100 per cent that time. Pick another name.”

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